A Friendship Between Mars and Venus

         Can males and females truly be friends? I would like to think that males and females can
be friends without any physical attraction, just genuine feelings for each other. So many people confuse friendship with lust and love, but can the genders just be friends? Since the beginning of time males have always had a companion which is the female and even since they had been made to be with each other. I think there is a line between friendship and what we would say today “Friends with benefits”, but the question is where do we draw that line?

          I think it should stand firmly in front of the thing we call romance. Romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. We all know most male-female relationship turn into some kind of romance and ruins perfectly good friendships. So if we simply avoid romance we should be able to just have a stable friendship between gender. There is no reason a guy can’t just can’t be friends with a female because of something they have in common. Yes males and females can have things in common. Sports isn’t only for males; I know a number of females that like sports just as much as any guy I know.There are also girls that are “sneakerheads” and into more things of that nature just like there are guys that are more in touch with their feminine side and there isn’t anything wrong with that.    

          We all need someone you can just sit down and talk to without all the worries of hurting feelings because of what you might say. Now you see that men and women can also be friends. As males we sometimes may need advice from the perspective of a female. So can the two truly be friends? A psycology report says “The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace”. Therefore the two can actually coexist as just friends. It is much easier to communicate with someone of the opposite sex as well so why let the nature order of things become clouded by the irrelavant things like romance or anything else of that nature. Rabbi Shmuley states "men and women can be friends as long as they follow certain rules". "Starting with, you can't go on late night dates. You can have lunch in public but you should not order alcoholic beverages. Second you shouldn't take long drives or flights even if it is for work. Third you can't put yourself in a position for romance to grow and thrive. Forth you can't share secret with a platonic male or female friend that you wouldn't share with you spouse. Fifth and final you should not be friends with ex lovers".

           As we see there are certain boundaries that we must follow to maintain the stable title of just friendship. Avoiding these simple things should make it easy for you to have a true friendship with a male or female. As one can see, our society sets boundaries that should be held between a man and a woman to have a stable friendship with out having relations. In my opinion, if we uphold these boundaries we should be able to reach true friendship between male and female.