So Much Love, Not Enough Time

We all know men and women are different from the inside to the outside. An argument can be made from nothing as long as you have a female and a male present. Disagreement always present themselves while involving a male and females, and there is rarely a time where you can get the two genders to come together on a topic unless its a common issue. One difference that has been under review by many people even experts are how men view their relationships over the way women view relationships. Everything is fine when people are just friends, but when you throw the word “relationship” in the mix everything is flipped. What is commitment in the eyes of a man?

There has to be something about commitment that changes and gives diversity to the way men and women handle or view their relationships. Is it that as a man you want a fully committed woman while having the freedom to do as you please? Statistics show it is an estimated 30 to 60% of men in marriages that cheat on their spouse at least once. So with that being said about marriage the percentage has to be a lot higher in regular relationships. As a man I sometimes sit and wonder why is it that I have a lady and at the same time lust over other women? Am I not happy or is this somehow embedded into my DNA? Its easier for a man to pick up and leave? Maybe its the fact we aren’t as attached or emotional as a female would be so it is easier to break away and do what we want.

Being in college I see a lot of this male mentality on campus everyday and maybe this is because we are young and honestly don’t know what we want in life. We as males feel like a slight conversation is ok, but is this ok in the eyes of your partner in the relationship? As college males we feel as if this is the perfect opportunity to learn more about women and ourselves.This is the only time that we’ll ever have this many single females around so anxious to learn as much as we want to know.Young college males are like kids with a birthday cake. We like our own cake, but prefer it to be refrigerated. At the same time we like to make sure our cake is hands off while we attend other parties for a taste that reminds us of what we had before our cake was covered with a “sweet and sour relationship frosting”. This isn’t only an issue in college, but also an issue in society and we see it everyday. In some music today artist make it seem like its ok to be in a relationship and also step outside the to do as you please. The conflict comes in when the woman decides that this isn’t the kind of relationship she wants. She wants the male to be as fully committed and into this relationship as she is or would like to be. Women seek fulfillment, completion, and love out of relationships but that always becomes the last thing on a man’s mind among other things. I feel men love the idea of having or being in a relationship and women love the true feeling of it. Women will go on for days about what it is they want and long for, but they never think about what it takes to get there.

As I said “men seek freedom to converse with whom they please.” Is that because women aren’t putting their all into this relationships they long for? If women were to give what it is they ask for would this make things better or would men continue to do as they please? Men will find the smallest excuse to do whatever it is they please and no one is perfect so there will come a time where we all as humans will make those mistakes. So as men we jump off the deep end and constantly cheat on women. Now if the shoe was on the other foot opposed to cheating women will work at a relationship over and over and try to fix the problem even if more than one problem presents itself. Women will always care for and put forth more effort than a male in a relationship and this is because that is what they truly want. LOVE! So in conclusion I use the words of superstar hip-hop artist Dewayne “Lil’ Wayne” Carter,” A woman’s life is love and a


We all know men and women are different from the inside to the outside. An argument can be made from nothing as long as you have a female and a male present. Disagreement always present themselves while involving a male and females, and there is rarely a time where you can get the two genders to come together on a topic unless its a common issue. One difference that has been under review by many people even experts are how men view their relationships over the way women view relationships. Everything is fine when people are just friends, but when you throw the word “relationship” in the mix everything is flipped. What is commitment in the eyes of a man?

There has to be something about commitment that changes and gives diversity to the way men and women handle or view their relationships. Is it that as a man you want a fully committed woman while having the freedom to do as you please? Statistics show it is an estimated 30 to 60% of men in marriages that cheat on their spouse at least once. So with that being said about marriage the percentage has to be a lot higher in regular relationships. As a man I sometimes sit and wonder why is it that I have a lady and at the same time lust over other women? Am I not happy or is this somehow embedded into my DNA? Its easier for a man to pick up and leave? Maybe its the fact we aren’t as attached or emotional as a female would be so it is easier to break away and do what we want.

Being in college I see a lot of this male mentality on campus everyday and maybe this is because we are young and honestly don’t know what we want in life. We as males feel like a slight conversation is ok, but is this ok in the eyes of your partner in the relationship? As college males we feel as if this is the perfect opportunity to learn more about women and ourselves.This is the only time that we’ll ever have this many single females around so anxious to learn as much as we want to know.Young college males are like kids with a birthday cake. We like our own cake, but prefer it to be refrigerated. At the same time we like to make sure our cake is hands off while we attend other parties for a taste that reminds us of what we had before our cake was covered with a “sweet and sour relationship frosting”. This isn’t only an issue in college, but also an issue in society and we see it everyday. In some music today artist make it seem like its ok to be in a relationship and also step outside the to do as you please. The conflict comes in when the woman decides that this isn’t the kind of relationship she wants. She wants the male to be as fully committed and into this relationship as she is or would like to be. Women seek fulfillment, completion, and love out of relationships but that always becomes the last thing on a man’s mind among other things. I feel men love the idea of having or being in a relationship and women love the true feeling of it. Women will go on for days about what it is they want and long for, but they never think about what it takes to get there.

As I said “men seek freedom to converse with whom they please.” Is that because women aren’t putting their all into this relationships they long for? If women were to give what it is they ask for would this make things better or would men continue to do as they please? Men will find the smallest excuse to do whatever it is they please and no one is perfect so there will come a time where we all as humans will make those mistakes. So as men we jump off the deep end and constantly cheat on women. Now if the shoe was on the other foot opposed to cheating women will work at a relationship over and over and try to fix the problem even if more than one problem presents itself. Women will always care for and put forth more effort than a male in a relationship and this is because that is what they truly want. LOVE! So in conclusion I use the words of superstar hip-hop artist Dewayne “Lil’ Wayne” Carter,” A woman’s life is love and a man's love is life.

Are Men Given More Advancement Opportunity In Teaching Than Women

Are Men Given More Advancement Opportunity In Teaching Than Women?
The phenomenon known as the “glass ceiling”, Is something that is often talked about in every profession. Typically when you hear this, you may assume that it automatically refers to men, getting ahead compared to women based on sex. What about the teaching profession though? The teaching profession is a desired job by both of the sexes. It may not have the highest salary available, but it does have a steady paycheck, benefits, good vacations, and time to spend with the family. But who does it better, men or women? Who does “popular society” think does it better? Men, in most professions, are seen as the ones that have a “leg up” based on their gender, but in the previous years, the teaching profession has, or was seen as a “women’s profession”. I believe that, even though teaching has been seen as a woman's profession, men are beginning to gain ground and now even started to “get ahead”. In this article I will discuss why I believe men have a better chance, now that their numbers in this field are growing, of getting a job over a women. And Is there really enough room for both of them to have equality when it comes to advancement opportunity?
“White men in these fields are climbing aboard what’s commonly referred to as the “Glass ceiling.” “Equally qualified women in these positions, seem to now be getting “passed over” for their male counterpart.” Forbes.com. The number of male teachers is growing strong and they want to work in their profession. There is no different from women trying earn a living doing something they love. If that is true then who gets the job if they are both equally as qualified? I would have to say men. With the growing numbers of men in this field, and the socially understood history that men will get more advanced positions than women, then it is inevitable that men will get hired in a position over a women while they have growing numbers.
In http://blogs.edweek.org, there is an article “Is Sexism Holding U.S. Teachers Back?”. In the article, it discusses the difference between American teachers and Finland teachers. In Finland woman in general are highly respected, due to their political and social achievements. When you think of why society has thought of women as better for the teaching professions you think of the different traits women commonly have then men. Women are more commonly seen as being “ nurturing, selfless, and compliant”. In Finland the female teachers are seen differently then they are in the U.S. “Esther Quintero, a research associate at the Shanker Institute” says that “by contrast, teachers in the United States—traditionally and predominantly female—are treated as inferiors. "Compliance is rewarded; independence and autonomy are not teacher-like,". In that she also must mean that Finish female teachers, and females in Finland in general, are encouraged to be the opposite of “compliant”, taught to be outspoken and forward. There may be something to this social thought process because Finnish student typically “perform so well” academically. Obviously if it is still a female dominated profession in Finland then women must really bring “something special” to the job. However I do still believe that with the rising number of men in this profession in America then it is more likely that they will be given an advancement opportunity. 

    
     
    


    


           

A Friendship Between Mars and Venus

         Can males and females truly be friends? I would like to think that males and females can
be friends without any physical attraction, just genuine feelings for each other. So many people confuse friendship with lust and love, but can the genders just be friends? Since the beginning of time males have always had a companion which is the female and even since they had been made to be with each other. I think there is a line between friendship and what we would say today “Friends with benefits”, but the question is where do we draw that line?

          I think it should stand firmly in front of the thing we call romance. Romance is a feeling of excitement and mystery associated with love. We all know most male-female relationship turn into some kind of romance and ruins perfectly good friendships. So if we simply avoid romance we should be able to just have a stable friendship between gender. There is no reason a guy can’t just can’t be friends with a female because of something they have in common. Yes males and females can have things in common. Sports isn’t only for males; I know a number of females that like sports just as much as any guy I know.There are also girls that are “sneakerheads” and into more things of that nature just like there are guys that are more in touch with their feminine side and there isn’t anything wrong with that.    

          We all need someone you can just sit down and talk to without all the worries of hurting feelings because of what you might say. Now you see that men and women can also be friends. As males we sometimes may need advice from the perspective of a female. So can the two truly be friends? A psycology report says “The belief that men and women can’t be friends comes from another era in which women were at home and men were in the workplace”. Therefore the two can actually coexist as just friends. It is much easier to communicate with someone of the opposite sex as well so why let the nature order of things become clouded by the irrelavant things like romance or anything else of that nature. Rabbi Shmuley states "men and women can be friends as long as they follow certain rules". "Starting with, you can't go on late night dates. You can have lunch in public but you should not order alcoholic beverages. Second you shouldn't take long drives or flights even if it is for work. Third you can't put yourself in a position for romance to grow and thrive. Forth you can't share secret with a platonic male or female friend that you wouldn't share with you spouse. Fifth and final you should not be friends with ex lovers".

           As we see there are certain boundaries that we must follow to maintain the stable title of just friendship. Avoiding these simple things should make it easy for you to have a true friendship with a male or female. As one can see, our society sets boundaries that should be held between a man and a woman to have a stable friendship with out having relations. In my opinion, if we uphold these boundaries we should be able to reach true friendship between male and female.

Taste the Rainbow !

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Why is it okay for Women to be homosexual, But not Men?
                   
 If you were to go to a mall and see two men kissing on each other, you probably would feel very uncomfortable from a straight man and straight woman's point of view, right? I would, but if the roles were reversed and it would have been two females kissing it probably would be a different story right? You rarely see a homosexual woman using PDA unlike homosexual guys. This is probably one reason why society doesn't like homosexual guys. Women are way more discreet with their business. Rather than guys wanting to be “out there” as some of my gay guy friends would call it. Women also care a lot about how others view them, as in that typical cliche “don’t judge a book by its cover.” Women judge other women regardless if they are obviously gay or not. Women seek others approval, what is right from wrong. Kind of like follow the leader “trends.” If you're gay then I’ll be gay to. Gay guys just do not care, they believe that they were gay from birth.
    In society nowadays people believe that it is not okay or accepted by others when they see a gay male.  Homosexuality is actually looked down upon by different ethnicities, cultures, and religions. According to what the Bible says, “Homosexuality is an abomination to God.” So now you have fundamentalish christians slapping their Bibles on their children for voicing their preferred sexuality, “coming out the closet.” Not all christians or even other religions automatically throw the Bible on their child. But at the end of the day God’s answers about homosexuality will always be right over how their son/daughter feels. They are still not accepted. It doesn’t just stop at homsexuality, we have transgender people in the world as well. More men are wanting to be women, than women wanting to transition to men. Men transitioning into women scares other men. For the simple fact that the transitioned man will not tell their partner that they were once a man. To another guy if they were once a man they are still considered a man. They don’t want to be considered gay for having a partner that was once a man.

From talking with my straight friends, having my personal view of this topic, and researching. Gay men are not accepted because of how they act in public. As in the slang they use, how they dress up all the way down to the switch in their walk. It is all frowned upon, because it makes others feel uncomfortable. How would you explain to your child a guy walking around with a purse and heels on? You can’t it’s quite impossible in my opinion. Gay men want to be women and to another man they are considered a sissy. This day and age straight guys believe that a man's duty is to protect and provide for their family. Not to be the one getting taken care of. A man should bring home the food to put on the table, not be the one cooking it in an apron. Women on the other hand can still get what they need done and still have a homosexual lifestyle. Other than the fact people judge them just as hard as they judge gay guys. Women just tend to brush it off as with a guy, they would like to make a big dramatic scene about it. My gay friends call it “being a queen.”

Everyone has their own personal opinion on whether people should be gay or not. But in the end they will still love whomever they decided to. Who are we to judge and say they can’t? Well, it technically isn't our place. But this day and age people feel obligated to voice their opinion on situations they as one person can’t control. So as a community they set out on small problems and turn them into HUGE problems. Perfect example, the Chick-fil-A controversy. Chief operating officer Dan Cathy made a statement opposing same-sex marriage. They had made millions of donations which opposed LGBT rights. According to USA TODAY “53% said they are boycotting, 43% said they would continue to eat their food and 5% were undecided.” All while this is happening all the gay guys are acting out, standing in front of Chick- fil-A with their gay flags. While the gay women aren't taking it as serious and making a big deal about it. Simply because Dan Cathy never once said he did not like gay people. Cathy said, “they don’t support same sex marriage.” Just as gay guys like to make a little situation big, this was one of them.

Mr. Wrong

Leaving a Toxic relationship is better!

How do people fall into toxic relationships? Being in a toxic relationship, can feel good at first , but in the end, it doesn’t turn out well. Some people like to ignore their conscious and do what they feel right now ,instead of listening to their voice of reason. So, can some toxic relationships work out? No! Leaving is the best solution and that’s a fact. Especially, if we love ourselves, whether man or woman, we all have self worth, if we believe. Being a toxic person, can rub off on other people and create a negative atmosphere. In a relationship, that can pull your partner’s spirit down. When you have a man/woman doing productive and positive works in his/her life, we don’t want to have an unnecessary high stress level. I believe that the best solution for the toxic issue, is to run as far as we can.

Toxic relationships can kill our self esteem and get us depressed to a point where we isolate ourselves from our family, friends, and even our worksite. Toxic people don’t think accurately, unfortunately, react off the first impulse, which is negative. But according to Vanessa Burton www.askmen.com, she observed that most women forgive men for cheating, lying, and being deceitful. No one really knows why because there is not a solid reason as to why women would do such thing. Women often follow their hearts before they follow their minds when they shouldn’t. That is where the problem comes into play. Some women just seem to love their “man” so much that it seems like there is nothing he can do to make her let go. Just as Mary J. Blige’s song lyrics to Mr.Wrong goes, she states that she “can’t think of nothing that’ll make her walk out”. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mL-LQTBQlPg

So it is just an unspoken fact that although women despise men for hurting them emotionally, they just can’t leave them alone even though they should.

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Do you call it like you see it?

Do you call it like you see it?

              For the past couple of decades the disrespect women get from men and sometimes other women has gone through the roof, why is that? I constructed a survey of my own to see how frequently the words “bitch” and “hoe” are used to describe a woman. The survey asked, “Have you ever called a female out of their name?” I asked twenty people, males and females, and out of those twenty people all of the answers were yes. I wondered why? Is it the way a female dresses? The way she carries herself? Or is it just pure ignorance in the world today with people trying to follow the correct trend of the month?
              I was listening to Ciara’s song “Like a Boy” and in her song she says, “if I had a thing on the side, made you cry; would the role change up or still apply. If I played you like a toy, sometimes I wish I could act like a boy.” This kept replaying in my head and if the roles did reverse the women would get the name “hoe”. According to men, women can not “act like a lady, think like a man.” What is a hoe to be exact? Coming from a wikipedia source a “hoe is a garden tool or a Korean dish of raw fish. I don’t know any females that are garden tools, or even a dish or Korean fish. Just to keep it real. I wouldn't want to be called a Bitch, meaning a female dog. Well, who would want to be called out of their name?
               If a woman is wearing something revealing to that specific person is she a slut? I see, and hear this all the time, “I call it how I see it.” So basically you’re saying if you see a man with tattoos then he is a gang banger or a so called “bad guy.” Labeled as a thug. But tattoos are popular these days, and so are tight fitting skirts. Anywhere you go, or anything you do people are going to have something negative to say. If a girl wants to wear a mini skirt she should be able to wear one and not get called out of her name for dressing the way she likes. In her opinion she thinks she is pretty. Who are you to rain on their parade?
              Men aren’t the only ones guilty about this. Women are just as bad. Maybe even worse. Honestly, females hate on other females, especially when the female gets attention from other guys. It’s some kind or territorial claim. Meaning, they want to be the center of attention, and thats with every female. You shouldn’t hate on another female that’s petty. When a man calls a woman out of her name that is very disrespectful, but when a woman allows it and does the same thing as the man that’s even worse because you are a woman and you’re saying it’s okay to be called that.
              Now back to the real question, do you call it how you see it? I’m pretty sure everyone is somewhat guilty of this situation. I just want to make it known how bad it is. It’s in the music we listen to. The television we watch and the schools we attend. In Lupe Fiasco’s, “Bitch Bad ,“he addresses the black community on the way their music is. In his song he is saying the women like to be called a “bad bitch” because the media makes it look like a good thing. In the lyrics Lupe says, “First he’s relating the word ‘bitch’ to his moma comma and because she’s relatin’ to herself, his most important source of help.” Lupe is saying that the little boys are picking up the word “bitch” from their mommas because she is referring to herself as a “bad bitch”. Now I want to change the way men and women think. It starts by taking those words out of your vocabulary. Do you call it like you see it?

Mom ! Dad! I'm hungry!

Who is the better cook men or women?

Things have changed a lot over the past few decades. Women use to cook , clean and take care of the children . Now since more women are going into the workforce , it seems that more and more women are losing sight of what they use to know and now men are stepping up to the plate. So one of the things I will focus on is, who will be determined as the better cook?

PR Newswire reports from Allrecipes.com , launched a survey on ManTestedRecipes.com, "Our research shows men genuinely enjoy cooking but have uniquely masculine interests and tastes; they deserve a dedicated and authentic community to connect with each other," said Lisa Sharples, president of Allrecipes.

Agreeing with Mrs. Lisa Sharples ,with so many websites, cookbooks and passed down recipes , for men to have a website that caters to their liking is something very useful. I personally have never had any problems with my father or brothers cooking I’m glad I was blessed with such great cooks.

Some statistics have shown men enjoy preparing meals more than women , men enjoy eating more than women and that men will take more time to prepare a meal instead of having an allotted time like women prefer. The percentage ranges are not being won by men by a landslide which tells me to some extent there is a slight balance in the system . Men Enjoy Cooking More can be said at this time, but maybe we can see more in the reasoning why and how possibly why men are the better cooks.

According to the United States Department of Labor about 20 percent more women worked within the household doing simple housework or cleaning. Now just because women spend more time in the house does not mean they are a better cook but may have more experience in the matter.

Recently in Department of Economic and Social Affairs published The World's Women 2010 ,it states that there are 57 million more men than women in the world. Also it states that women usually carry most of the work load . So why aren't women better at cooking?

Women having the ability to multitask, constantly having to cook meals at home can become repetition while men who might not do as much at home have the ability to go into the restaurant business and become a good chef able to use their creative side more. With basic knowledge of having the understanding that some women don't have the endurance to be in a kitchen setting all day unlike some men, it can easily become a double standard.

A Asia Food Recipe poll found that little over half of the rounded to 3000 people actually thought their husband was a better cook , majority of the men enjoyed cooking while being able to memorize a few meals without reference. The statistics don't look so good for the womens side of the house, majority struggled with basic skills, only a select few could do what the men did which is memorize a few certain meals.

With modern technology ,children involved in everything and being able to provide a family with basic necessities , it seems women just don't have the time anymore to provide a great meal but more meals that just provide simple nutrition. It only seems that women might be able to provide just a home cooked meal. Men on the other hand have been given the opportunity to stand by and watch what their counterparts are doing. Men I believe are more capable of providing more of a restaurant feel to meals using their creativity and stamina in the kitchen.

Men and Women as Equal

Blog Post Two
Are Women in America Treated Differently Than Men in Today’s Age?

    Everyone has their own opinion on whether men and women are treated equally. Some believe that women’s rights have evolved incredibly, going from “housewives”, to holding careers like senators and lawyers; others believe that we as a country, are far from equality between men and women. In fact, as unlikely as it may seem, studies show that women are still primarily treated unfairly compared to men. As the “Washington Post” states, “women make only 76 cents compared to a man’s dollar; make up the majority of Americans living in poverty; and hold only 17% of the seats in congress”, which shows the lack of power they have in the U.S government to date. Although women are just as educated as men, the numbers continue to drop as time goes on. After reading the statistics, It would be safe to say that they are not taken as seriously as men. This should be changed immediately, due to it having an important impact on the entire country, rising as high of a status as the president of the U.S.
    Females also experience more violence compared to males. As the “U.S Department of Justice” study states in 2008, “females experienced about 552,000 nonfatal victimizations”. That same article also states that, compared to only 101,000 (450,000 less) that occurred to men from women, a ratio of 4.3 to 0.8. This rate shows the large amount of turmoil afflicted to females as compared to that to males. Males also experience turmoil in the country although the more troubled situations happen to the women. The study also states that violence to women declined 53% from the years of 1993 to 2008, which is a positive, and is one thing that speaks highly of our countries culture toward women.

As the “Scholastic” article “Women in the U.S today” states briefly, “Although more doors are open to women today, there seems to be a ‘glass ceiling,’ a level above which women do not rise”. Some women carry executive positions in in the workforce, although it is not too common that they will. It also states that women have slowly become leaders in professions, especially in medicine and law; not to overlook sanitary workers, police officers, and firefighters, which are dominated in the workplace primarily by men today. “Not only have women often been denied fair salaries, but they have paid a price for trying to "have it all" — both a career and a family. More and more women are feeling the pressure of trying to balance their personal and professional lives.” They also have to balance their lives with raising a family as some do, to support them. Many men see women as just a “housewife” type of figure in society, while the male works. However, more and more women are beginning to break out of that shell of, the things that are only done by the men in society.

In all, women and men in America are treated differently, some in positive ways, and some in negative ways, but as most research actually shows, most, unfortunately, are in a negative way as it may seems. It may be this way now, but I am sure it should change as years progress, and as the country moves forward with accepting women into higher levels of authority, and with much more respect to others as well. No one’s perfect and everyone has their own opinion about many topics and social issues throughout the country, ours being the treatment of women in contrast to that of men. If the world was perfect, men and women would be treated as equals, but since it’s not, we could agree or disagree on the topic chosen in the writing, which I hope makes you think about the discussion in this writing. Thank you.

Past to Future

I believe this subject has been debated and argued over for centuries, dating back to when Adam and Eve were created. Just since Eve fell for the trick of the snake and ate the forbidden fruit, man has always thought and considered the woman to be less significant.Most men of the Christian faith have to understand that if it wasn't for Eve's sin the Christian faith wouldn't have turmoil and tribulation. Everything would come easy and Christians would be scrutinized even more than they are now. Also a main part of Christian and other faiths is that life represents the flesh form of existence in which man (and woman) is tested before being sent to heaven. If man truly thinks of a woman as a less significant, what test is there? Is it the test of loving someone else more than one’s self? Regardless of significance? Thus rising above the measure of one’s or others worth?

Theory has it that cavemen would select a cave woman with long hair and big hips with the understanding they had better child bearing abilities.This also goes along with todays world. Men have been known to go for the woman with long , thick hair and curves ,over skinny and short hair today. Women nowadays through statistics have been known to find a husband based off of their father figure. This doesn't mean a man that looks like her father but portrays the same qualities whether good or bad. My point is that there is a learned schema that we develop from childhood as to what is right in a man or a woman. As adults we seek to find what is familiar over something that is truly what our own personalities will mesh best with.

The way that women have been looked at use to be strictly for childbirth and re-population. Men like to hear their name will be passed down and carried out through history and always remembered. Men have always been the provider, so with this they feel the need to be more masculine and have a need to be seen as the one who creates , controls and determines every aspect of a relationship. In 1920 the 19th amendment was established giving the women the right to vote , along with allowing women into the workforce. Today, views may not be a strong as in the 1920’s, but there are still the superior/inferior mindsets or Venus and Mars backgrounds which leads to thinking that men and women are fundamentally different as if they are species from entirely different planets.

Selection now has to do with baggage , finances , personality, arranged marriages and the occasional wonderful outcome of love. It is very hard for someone to select a partner in life if peer pressure and media in the way. Parents always want the best for their children ,but always don't see what the children see’s. A man might want a woman because he sees the mother of his children , his parents see their legacy being carried on and grandchildren in the future. Peer pressure can come from friends simply not seeing what their buddy see’s in that girl. The friend in this case might ask why is my buddy choosing her over me? When this occurs the attached man might be more inclined to treat her differently due to peer pressure in order to salvage what relationship they have, when this isn't the case at all. A simple conversation is all that needs to happen to come to a conclusion. Media today doesn't help the perception of women. Things like skinny is in, modifications,augmentations, botox this and lift that. I can personally see how men can get aggravated with women and think because men can't fake much that women should not be able to either.

As the times have progressed and the world as a whole has evolved women have proven themselves that they are more than capable to do what any man can do and more. This is a very difficult thing to do in a mans world as having to prove strength , intelligence, endurance, perseverance, and all while taking care of a full household. I do personally know women do abuse the female role and try to get what they want without having to do the work, when they do this it just makes it just that much harder for the rest who are being honest hard workers.

I do believe the struggle for women has gotten a lot better . With evolution and technology many things can change over time and maybe in favor for women. I do hope whatever is to come out of the future benefits everyone. I do feel women need more help due to what we have endured and what we are capable of doing which is giving life. Giving birth is a amazing and beautiful thing that women can do in their lifetime. I do know that it takes a mans help to create such a great moment in someone's life. With being able to have the ability to give life, I would hope that mankind in general would be more appreciative to their counterparts in the future.

New Era of Dominance

Why are Men More Dominant Than Women?

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Since we were born, we have grown up to believe that men are more dominant than women. It has been taught to us since we were children. It has been part of our culture and we have grown into knowing that men are the dominant sex. Can you remember listening to childhood bible stories of the first person on Earth Adam, a man, and Eve, a woman? Maybe it is religion that has caused the world to have tunnel vision. Not only has Christianity affected beliefs, but Islamic religion as well. It could be cultural, biological, and psychological differences that make men the more dominant sex. I believe times are changing and a new era is coming to light.

Lets not look at just western culture but lets look worldwide. The culture of a society is influenced by many different things. Religion is probably in the top three if not the highest influential factor to a culture. Muslim families are typically male dominant. Roughly two billion people, a third of the world’s population, practice the Muslim faith. Women are expected to obey their male husbands without question. If a woman were to ever disobey her husband, there would be horrible consequences. The power struggle of dominance in sex is not as lopsided in Western cultures and tends to favor women more so than Eastern and Middle Eastern cultures.Women hold more positions of power in western cultures compared to eastern. The men to women ratio is still heavily favored on the men side when it comes to holding these types of positions. Although culture is a major reason why men are typically more dominant than women it is not the only reason.
Biologically men are overall stronger than women. That is not to say that some women can kick a man’s ass, but that on average a man is stronger than a woman. Also men are physically taller than most women. Perhaps it is just the size and strength that tend to make men the more dominant sex. Hypothetically let's imagine two people that are highly pissed at each other and for whatever reason they can not talk out their differences and the only thing left to do is brawl. So then begins the pre-fight standoff tradition where one sizes up the other. The intimidating stare that each one gives the other is intense and neither are backing down. Until one notices that the other has been working out at Planet Fitness for the past year and is at least two inches taller and can bench a John Deere tractor. This seems convincing enough for him/her to back down. This scenario could have been compared with both women and men. The point is that size and strength are factors in dominance.

The third underlying factor of dominance is caused by psychological differences. A person’s psyche is affected by many different things and it begins as a young child. One could tie this in with the cultural aspect of religion as well but I would like to focus more on a person’s guardian. An individual raised in a household where everyone is very loud, they are all outspoken, and have been taught not to turn the other cheek. They tend to grow up to have more of a strong personality. A more dominant personality. They will have a more “it’s my way or the highway” attitude of handling situations and these are the type of people that later on in life “wear the pants in the house” so to speak. They are also more likely to get more job promotions over the individual who is less outspoken. Traumatizing events in a person’s life can also have the same effect. It can strengthen a person’s psyche. A person’s upbringing and traumatic events can also have the reverse effect as well.

Since the beginning of our species men have been the dominant sex in relationships; the workforce, the military, and in education institutes. Its their duty to be the provider for their family. Now times are changing tremendously. Ashley Lutz, a writer for Business Insider, states that, “Women are speeding past men in schools, at home and in the workplace.” Maybe it is time to set aside our animalistic instincts of strength and size dominates all type of mindframe, and actually use what is between our ears to make the right choices in our relationships and in our workplaces. A new era has begun.

who is really a better driver? Men or women

Blog post #2
Who is really a better driver? Men or women?
          

The battle of the sexes, this war has waged on throughout the years, using many different platforms to disagree on. Between the two of us, we have probably figured out throughout the years everything that it was possible for us to either, disagree on, or compete over. We argue over who is the more reasonable of the two,more physically equipped, smarter, has more influence in the business world, in the world in general, over each other, and my personal favorite, who is a better driver. The reason this is my favorite is because when I was growing up my parents didn’t really argue very much, however when it came to driving they could never agree. My mother grew up in New Jersey and my father is from New Hampshire, and they are both the stereo typical “location drivers”.  My mother drives aggressively like all NJ drivers and my father drives very slow, which, if you don’t know is typical of NH drivers. In the hopes to settle this argument once and for all, research is required. “Statistics Brain.com” found from “Insurance Institute for Highway Safety” that Males have a ratio of 3.41 of reckless driving to a 1 for female drivers. We all know that men take more risks than women but this also seems to stand true with driving. Males also have a 1.75 to 1 ratio of females for speeding violations. Yes some may argue that, “men don’t follow the set rules, but concerning technique, they are the better drivers.” That may be true with some males, but “Statistics Brain.com” also states in the same article that men and women between the ages of twenty to twenty nine have a ratio of 4.0 to 2.0 of males to females in fatal car crashes. All I can say to that is the rules are in place for a reason, and it takes skill to maintain a set speed and correspond to guidelines as the roads were designed to have them followed.

           Parking is also a portion of driving that men more often than not, firmly believe women are less capable of.  However sorry I am to disappoint some men, according to “The Huffington Post’s” article “Women Are Better At Parking Then Men: Study” women are the ones that are typically better at parking. A study done by the  “NCP Parking report” found that “ men rush when parking and end up wasting time and gas driving past parking spaces and, once they do find one, are more apt to park sloppily.” It was also found that “While women take longer to park” “53 percent of women were judged to have parked centrally within a space, compared to just a quarter of men.”
           Men often complain about how women either worry too much or “have to have everything perfect”. If men think that, then they could also conceive that women take more care in driving then they do. Of course if men still don’t agree on the fact that women are better drivers than they can just read the statistics. I believe women are better drivers than men based on the statistics, that come from non biased sources, the common knowledge fact that men cost more to insure, so an industry purely driven by making money say that women are less of a cost to them, and from my own personal understanding on the differences between the way men and women act concerning different situations and habits. I guess in short, I would rather drive with women on the road then men.