Being a man I know how easy it is to start a conversation with a female and it turn into something more. People nowadays like to call this flirting. Flirting is a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal and written communication as well as body language from one person to another. The art of flirting or coquetry is to show an interest into a deeper relationship and the simple minded will fall for this tactic used by both males and females. Where does separation from flirting to true attraction begin? This is something a lot of people end up confused about and this can also cause problems for male and females.
In this age in time people flirt carefree, men and women both do this without realizing how common this particular art of conversation is. I personally feel like flirting is another way to get whatever it is you want out of a person. Making someone feel comfortable by conversation will take you a long way. Think about all the things you accomplish by communication, then add some sweet words and show a little interest and you will have someone eating out of your hands. When men and women spend a lot of time together flirting becomes involuntary. Although, some people flirt constantly, others reserve these affectionate gestures for the real attractions.
If there are true feelings behind flirting it is best to let that person know in advance. By doing this you can avoid many awkward, stressful, and even destructive situations. True feelings aren’t easily identified when it comes to flirting and this can also leads to problems. These problems are often more common in females than males, because of them being the more passionate and sensitive of the two; So sometimes women tend to not pick up on flirting as quickly. The key to flirting is keeping the heart out of the equation. Being lighthearted keeps the true feeling out of the relationship. Friends that do not have real attraction tend to ride the flirting train and play the game until something else comes along and then they pick up an leave. Honestly flirting and real attraction can be identified by the level of attention given by he or she. How exclusive two people are can also distinguish the true attraction from simple flirting. Think about it, how often would you just see someone flirting in public with someone they don’t have a true attraction too? Being someone who flirt I can honestly say it doesn’t happen often, and if it does it is a very awkward situation.
There is nothing wrong with flirting, but depending on how long you carry it out can do damage. Regardless of whether you have good intentions flirting can be hurtful. Real attraction is what most people look for, but they end up in the flirting stage caught up in their feeling thinking they have something and really don’t. Now that you can identify the difference between the two will this change anything? Maybe it will save someone a lie or even heartbreak.
I've learned that the best thing is honesty and not beating around the bush if you're interested in another person. Just come out with it and say what you mean to say. Don't wait. Yeah, flirting can backfire on you, but some complements can make someone's day.
ReplyDeleteI feel like you cant have your cake and eat it to. In other words don't try to have two of the same things. What happens in the dark always comes to light. Just be honest on what your intentions are!
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